|Posted by [email protected] on September 4, 2020 at 10:05 AM|
In my experience of talking to several hundred women about their retired lives, most have successfully figured out and chosen their best retired way of life after going though the transitional period.
Each of us hold the ethical resources to lead an insightful life of greater happiness. We’ve also come to realize that life is defined by many turning points. And so, it becomes fair for women to ask “what’s next” ?
Whether it’s enjoying a zoom meeting, dining at a restaurant, taking a walk with a friend or passing new milestones together, studies have shown that people who stay active and who connect with other people live longer, happier, healthier lives.
Volunteering, taking classes, joining social groups, working on hobbies and pursuing a religious or spiritual routine are additional patterns for staying connected and being reasonably happy.
Seniors gave some answers to what they felt sorry they hadn't completed. In this poll, one retiree said taking risks was essential. Another declared it crucial to lighten up and not take life seriously, implying one should live in the moment.
Doing something every day to make life less complicated deserves mention here. These seniors admitted needing to be clear about what counted, with the need to be even clearer about what doesn’t count. They suggested that being creative and active must have a risk and challenge element.
Whether retirement is viewed as either a positive or negative event often depends on the reasons for retiring; some choose it while others are forced into it. Approximately one third have difficulty in coping with the consequences of retirement, to illness, job loss, or reduced income.
Retirement can also have its way of changing relationships and may leave a senior feeling without purpose. In the transition, some may feel diminished or they have little left to contribute. Unfortunately, some people don’t feel the needed support.
A woman who posted on social media said she took an early retirement at age fifty- seven because she thought the 20-30 "somethings" were “taking over”. She believed she had no choice but to leave, which left her feeling angry and cheated.
Because this woman loved her work, she found that age-discrimination kept her from getting another job, which made her miserable. She had no hobbies and because working was her life, she became discouraged with herself and felt she was merely “taking up space”.
My best advice for this lady would be for her to focus on what she can change rather than what she cannot. Oddly enough, there is no magic feather or right way to manage retirement transition except to say that some people will be happy to hunt for newness, some will continue as before, some will remain as spectators and others may retreat to the couch.
According to Jim Rohn’s book, 5 Major Pieces of the Life Puzzle, he states that a happier lifestyle comes as a result of “living more fully, more consciously, more joyfully and more appreciatively”.
Each person brings their individual set of resources, with different opinions about what a best retirement should look like for them. At any rate, each day brings us the option to uncover fresh ideas about fitting into this new life.
You already own the valuable keys. Optimizing the gifts that have complemented you all through your life should be made effortless if you’re willing to stop and take a sensible look at who you are and wish to be.